HERE ARE 10 KEY COMPONENTS
Love is a powerful thing – a kind that is unrivaled when you experience it. But the issue is many relationships end prematurely after a short period. In most cases, partners may experience similar dysfunctional patterns in their next relationship.
Without a doubt, it takes extra effort to keep up a healthy relationship. While all relationships do not always begin in the same way, what makes each relationship work differs. Some relationships can last as long as ten years, and some even a lifetime, provided the people involved are committed to working on it.
From experience, I’ve learned some key components that go into a working relationship. These tips can help keep a relationship stable and successful even under the most trying circumstances.
1. Good Communication
The phrase “communication is key” is undoubtedly one you’ve heard before. Effective communication remains the bedrock of any successful relationship. The partners understand each other’s feelings and speak in a friendly, honest, and open manner. This is also important when unexpected challenges arise.
To improve communication in your relationship, you must find a balance that both of you are comfortable with. Set aside dedicated time to discuss issues rather than waiting for a topic to naturally arise.
For instance, you don’t have to spend the evening being passive-aggressive and hope your partner will realize you’re upset because they were late for dinner. Instead, discuss it maturely and ensure you’re both clear about it. Open up to your partner on what’s troubling you, compromise over your differences, and complement each other. All of these are equally important.
2. Understanding
In Brenner’s opinion, genuine understanding requires undivided attention and careful listening.
You will rarely have to agree on everything in a relationship. Regardless of how much you care about your partner, there would be some things about them that can irritate you. Rather than constantly arguing over spilled juice, people in healthy relationships have learned to tolerate and accept the less-than-perfect behaviors of their partners. You can do the same too.
A healthy relationship is based on the ability to understand one another. That way, you develop personally and become a stronger, more “relationship-relaxed” person.
3. Commitment
At times, we may misunderstand the seriousness of a relationship. But having a heart-to-heart discussion of “what are we” clears up a lot of uncertainties, allowing for the development of a more cozy and firm foundation. If you and your partner aren’t on the same page in your relationship, it’s best to discuss what you want early on to develop a stronger bond.
4. Respect
In a working or healthy relationship, both partners have grown to the point that they have mutual respect for one another.
This is demonstrated by listening to your partner and trying to understand their perspective can be a great way to show respect in your relationship.
Even though you don’t always agree, your relationship doesn’t need one of you to change your mind for it to function. Even if you disagree with your partner on some issues, you should learn to respect their opinions and choices. If something is vital to them, you don’t have to try to convince them otherwise.
5. Boundaries
Another thing that goes into a healthy relationship is that the partners consider each other’s privacy and boundaries. Everyone has personal boundaries on what makes us feel at ease, happy, and secure among many others. It is not your entitlement to know everything your partner does and everyone they interact with. This also means being sensitive to your partner’s feelings and refraining from actions that could seriously upset them.
Never forget that setting personal limits in any relationship shouldn’t make you anxious or afraid. You should also have complete confidence in your ability to set boundaries in your relationship and believe that your partner will honor them.
Knowing your partner’s passwords is not a necessary component of a healthy relationship. While sharing those things is okay, being in a healthy relationship still requires some distance and a filter!
Do you feel like your partner is using boundaries to control you, like telling you not to hang out with friends or demanding that you share passwords? Then it’s time to rethink the relationship!
More relationships die from silence than violence. When you’re angry, do you bite your tongue? Do you abhor inappropriate behavior? Do you nag rather than enforce consequences? By acting “compliant” to keep the peace, you’re indirectly contributing to the inauthenticity of the relationship.
6. Trust
Every successful relationship is based on unreserved and reciprocated Trust between the partners. Despite what either partner has gone through in the past, they still have complete Trust in one another.
Trust in a relationship is earned; it does not come right off the bat. When your partner completely confides in you, you should respect them and not violate their Trust.
Never allow your partner to dominate or otherwise make you feel you need to go out of your way to win their Trust by using their lack of Trust or prior experiences as a justification.
7. Make time to play together
Show me a relationship that works and I’ll show you how much time each partner invested in it. One of the things that go into a successful relationship is the ability of the partners to make out time for each other. It is understandable that you and your partner lead a hectic lifestyle. But the atmosphere is lighthearted and upbeat when you hold hands, embrace, and talk to each other affectionately all the time. Maintaining these loving customs is so lovely in the first place and is essential to making a relationship succeed in the long term.
When you spend quality time with your partner – whether you two feel closest while enjoying a black-and-white movie or preparing your favorite meal together on the weekend – it helps to keep your relationship alive and well. Reminding one another of your shared motivations can only make your relationship stronger.
Similarly, quality time spent apart is just as essential as spending quality time together. Spend some time on those things essential to you individually.
8. Compatible life Goals
Even though you and your partner don’t have to share the same precise vision, your life objectives should be similar. For instance, you don’t have to give up being a parent just because your partner doesn’t want to be one.
Similarly, if you value having your family nearby but your partner is desperate to move across the nation, you might have to rethink whether the relationship is for you.
A successful or healthy partnership is one in which both partners are fully devoted to working toward their shared objectives in life. You both clearly understand what you want from life and what you want to accomplish in it.
9. Timely Support
Being in a healthy relationship has many benefits, one of which is the knowledge that your partner is there to support you.
Whether it’s being that shoulder you can rely on or standing up for you when someone says something hurtful about you. In a good relationship, partners support and treat each other equally.
A loving partner shouldn’t try to control, subjugate, or manipulate you. They shouldn’t be overprotective or possessive. Rather, they will motivate you to pursue your personal objectives, spend time with your family and friends, and live a life outside your partnership.
Supportive partners will always desire what is best for the other. They won’t hold each other back from reaching their dreams. You won’t feel like you have to change who you are or make significant compromises for the relationship to be successful.
10. Recognize conflict as normal
Disagreement is inevitable. Don’t end a relationship because of a bad patch unless you are facing serious issues, such as abuse, infidelity, legal issues, addictions, or violence. As you navigate storms together, your trust and dedication grow stronger.
Final thought: –
Any relationship, regardless of how it began, has the potential to succeed as long as the partners exhibit mutual growth or extreme tolerance for each other’s differences.
Is your relationship faulty or about to fail?
I will suggest you implement the tips mentioned above. If you can’t be honest without feeling guilty or like it will cause a big dispute, the relationship might not be the best one for you. In addition, if you consistently offer each other love, support, respect, and communication, your relationship’s Trust will inevitably grow stronger.
