You are currently viewing Scarcity In Relationship

Scarcity In Relationship

You meet this person when you are out or even online. There’s a mutual attraction and you start talking. You’re really keen on him or her and you just can’t get the person out of your mind. It all starts off well enough but after a period of time the sparks between you seems to die. Before you know it he or she’s not as enthusiastic as before and you wonder why. That is “SCARCITY” in action.

What Is Scarcity?

For the purpose of this discussion we shall adopt the following definition of Scarcity to wit:

According to scarcity is defined as:

1. insufficiency or shortness of supply; dearth.

2. rarity; infrequency.

The Cambridge Dictionary construed Scarcity to mean: “a situation in which something is not easy to find or get.”

More so “scarcity” is an economic term which holds that “a limited supply of goods, coupled with a high demand for that goods results in a mismatch between the desired supply and demand equilibrium.” Theoretically when there’s less of something available it creates a greater demand for that something. When it comes to relationships that something or goods can translate to love, affection or sex.

The Scarcity Principle was coined by Robert Cialdini one of the foremost experts on influence (Cialdini 2009). He found that people value and desire something more when it is rare or difficult to obtain. From numerous experiments Cialdini and others have found that making something rare or scarce (“Closing Down, Last Day”) or even unique, (“Last One”) increases its perceived attractiveness and value. It works on the principle of Reactance. None of us likes to be told we can’t do something or be denied what we want. When we’re denied something we “React” by trying harder to get what has been denied us. This is reverse psychology but it has been the subject of a lot of research. The research showed that when it comes to dating at least Scarcity is VERY POWERFUL.

So What Does This Mean In A Relationship?

Don’t make yourself 100% available. Replying to her or his text messages immediately every time you received one is actually sending the wrong message. Doing so makes attraction towards you diminish which can turn the person off in the process.

The key is not to act too desperate. Yes we’re all needy but that doesn’t mean you have to show it. Appearing too needy can make the other party panic and or back away; it’s too much pressure and this can turn them off. The best thing to do is get busy with your own life. Train for a marathon, turn a passion project into a side career, spend more time with your friends or even do some traveling on your own. Before long he/she’ll be the one feeling needy and desperate for your attention.

If you don’t have a purpose in life except for getting a lover and you’re always too available then it would appear that you are a weak, low-valued individual. This will make you unattractive to the opposite sex and will make the  individual look elsewhere for a stronger and much scarcer potential partner.

Practical Effect Of Scarcity In A Relationship

Re-programming your mind into using reverse psychology or counter-intuition will take a while. But it is necessary that you do this. If you change from being too available to being scarce it will produce results. This is backed up by science and real-life experiments. Often it produces completely amazing results in re-attracting the opposite sex within a very small time frame.

If you find that you’ve consistently being devalued by the opposite sex in relationships you will need to make yourself harder to obtain. Make yourself scarce at times! Too busy to reply? Then don’t reply for a while. Don’t always be the one to get in contact first and don’t always message back immediately. If you’re constantly waiting by the phone for a message stop, don’t hand the opposite-sex all the power. Before you message back wait twenty minutes, one hour or a couple of hours. Build attraction using scarcity.

Tips To Build Attraction Using Scarcity

You’ll need to execute this in a subtle way. Don’t fall off the face of the earth for several days at a time. This isn’t respectful and it isn’t treating the other party well. You should return a message or call within a six hour window. Anything more than this is completely unacceptable. Don’t willfully play with the other party’s emotions or be cruel with this new found information. Allow yourself to become aware of how your behaviour impacts on his or her attraction towards you.

Don’t send boring or pointless texts; only actually text when you have something interesting to say. If you use texts to make pointless small talk that would create an impression that you are a boring person.

Are you always thinking of something cool to text him or her? If you build attraction using scarcity you’ll need a lot less material! You’ll get a lot of precious time back in your days too – winner!

Do you want to know the easiest way to not be waiting by the phone? It is to get out there and find a purpose. Immerse yourself into a project and feel fulfilled. You won’t be waiting by the phone for a message as you’ll be busy and time will fly. The other party will also have time to miss you and wonder what you’re up to which will spark attraction. Build attraction using scarcity.

Eliminate Perceived Scarcity

Many people advocate not dating when you feel desperate. Unfortunately that leads to greater scarcity. Instead research suggests eliminating perceived scarcity by dating more. That doesn’t mean skipping monogamy. However if you are interested in someone schedule multiple dates right off the bat so you can relax knowing you will see the person again. If you engage in online dating wait until you find more than one person you’re interested in messaging before sending anything. Avoid situations early on that lead to a belief that there is only one person and this is your one chance.

What This Means For Your Love Life

Scarcity can have a big influence on your perception of the attractiveness and worth of someone else. So if you are chasing someone you might want to stop and ask yourself why. Do you have something tangible and real to base your attraction on? Or is that “amazing connection” just an illusion you have created because they are making you chase them and react?

Also if you find others are “bored” with you or devalue you, you might want to be a little harder to obtain yourself. Don’t give in so easily. Make them work a bit for it. Make yourself scarce. You might be surprised what it does to their perceptions! Besides, turn-about is fair play…


At the start of a relationship what we want to give our partners is our utmost attention. We heighten our presence by being too available and accessible for them. From the early start of an affair to after a couple of months or years as lovers we flood them with our presence. Believing that giving them our utmost attention and being with them most of the time augments those strong emotions they felt at the early stage of the relationship. And what we forget is that too much presence sometimes creates the opposite effect; it diminishes the excitement, the mystery and the strong feelings lovers have for each other.

When you’re easy to get or you don’t allow for a pursuit at all there’s very little thrill for the would be pursuer. If you’re always available or accessible spending time with you has little value because it’s something that can be acquired on demand.

Thanks for taking the time out of your life to enjoy this article.  Send All Request & Donations To: 2288 Gunbarrel Rd. Suite 154/388, Chattanooga/TN 37421. Our Cash App: $LoyalDetermined


In the world as diverse and bright as ours is, news of all kinds come in every single minute of the day... So, we’re always trying hard to supply all of our readers with the most socially important and popular news!

This Post Has 158 Comments

  1. sex

    I’m impressed, I have to admit. Rarely do I encounter a blog that’s both educative
    and interesting, and let me tell you, you’ve hit the nail on the head.
    The issue is something that not enough men and women are speaking intelligently about.

    I’m very happy that I found this during my hunt for something relating to this.

  2. ICO

    Excellent blog you have here but I was curious about if you knew
    of any forums that cover the same topics discussed here?
    I’d really love to be a part of online community where I can get feed-back from other
    knowledgeable people that share the same interest.

    If you have any suggestions, please let me know.
    Thanks a lot!

  3. Angelo

    Utilizing the ‘testingCheatsEnabled true’ cheat allows a lot of choices to develop into available to you.

  4. cawk

    Pretty component of content. I just stumbled upon your website and in accession capital to say that I acquire actually
    enjoyed account your blog posts. Any way I’ll be subscribing on your augment or even I success you get entry to consistently


    WOW just what I was searching for. Came here by searching for bathroom renovations hurstville

  6. Have you ever thought about writing an ebook or guest authoring on other websites?
    I have a blog centered on the same information you discuss and would really like to
    have you share some stories/information. I know my visitors would
    appreciate your work. If you are even remotely interested, feel free to shoot me an email.

  7. a

    Can I simply just say what a comfort to find an individual who truly knows
    what they are talking about on the internet. You definitely understand how to bring a problem to light and make it important.
    More and more people really need to read this and understand this side
    of your story. It’s surprising you are not more popular given that you certainly
    possess the gift.

  8. Kandy

    An outstanding share! I have just forwarded this onto a co-worker who was conducting a little research on this.
    And he actually ordered me lunch due to the fact that I found it for
    him… lol. So let me reword this…. Thanks for the meal!!
    But yeah, thanks for spending some time to talk about this subject here on your internet site.

  9. ico

    Helpful information. Fortunate me I discovered your site unintentionally, and I am
    stunned why this twist of fate didn’t took place in advance!
    I bookmarked it.

  10. Do you have a spam problem on this blog; I also am
    a blogger, and I was wondering your situation; we have
    developed some nice methods and we are looking to trade strategies with others, be sure to shoot me an e-mail if interested.

  11. It’s going to be end of mine day, except before ending I am reading this great post to increase my knowledge.

  12. android

    Have you ever thought about writing an e-book or guest authoring on other
    websites? I have a blog based on the same subjects you discuss
    and would love to have you share some stories/information. I know my
    visitors would value your work. If you’re even remotely interested, feel free to shoot me an e mail.

  13. Unquestionably believe that which you said. Your favorite reason seemed to be on the web the easiest thing to be aware
    of. I say to you, I certainly get irked while people think about worries that they just do not know
    about. You managed to hit the nail upon the top and defined out the whole thing without having side effect , people
    can take a signal. Will probably be back to get more.


  14. nude

    I loved as much as you’ll receive carried out right here.

    The sketch is tasteful, your authored subject matter stylish.
    nonetheless, you command get got an impatience over that
    you wish be delivering the following. unwell unquestionably come further formerly again as exactly the same nearly a lot often inside case you shield this hike.

  15. extorfx seo

    This text will level out widespread flaws which make it straightforward
    to identify a superb (and a foul) SEO Advisor.

  16. redmi qq

    If you are going for best contents like me, only go to see
    this web page everyday because it provides feature contents, thanks


    Thank you for some other informative website.
    The place else may I am getting that type of information written in such an ideal manner?
    I have a undertaking that I am simply now running on,
    and I have been at the glance out for such information.

    1. loyaldetermined

      You are Welcome. Continue to support our vision & share with your family/friends.

  18. double sided tape

    Unquestionably believe that which you stated. Your favourite reason seemed to be on the web
    the easiest factor to be mindful of. I say to you, I definitely get annoyed whilst other people think about issues that they just
    don’t know about. You controlled to hit the nail upon the highest as smartly as defined out
    the entire thing with no need side effect , folks can take a signal.
    Will probably be back to get more. Thanks

  19. 산양산삼

    This is the right site for anybody who wants to find out about this topic.
    You know so much its almost hard to argue with you (not that I really will need to…HaHa).
    You certainly put a new spin on a topic that’s been discussed for ages.
    Wonderful stuff, just excellent!

  20. He gave credit to Harbaugh for getting the team to the postseason in spite of the off-field [url=]Cheap Jerseys Outlet[/url] issues.
    Allen Robinson Jersey [url=]Allen Robinson Jersey[/url]

  21. Bush, also a former U.S. ambassador to China and CIA director, has a form of Parkinson’s disease that has forced him in recent years to use a motorized scooter or wheelchair for mobility.
    Makoto Hasebe Jersey

  22. blog o autach

    Wonderful article! We will bee linking to this particularly great article on our site.

    Keep up the good writing.

  23. Will

    I wanted tto thank you foor this fantastc read!! I definitely
    enjoyed every bit of it. I’ve ggot you book-marked to look at new stuff you post…

    1. loyaldetermined

      You Are Welcome

  24. I am noot sufe where you aare getting your info, but good topic.
    I needs to spnd some time learning much more or understanding more.
    Thanks foor fantastic info I was looking for
    this info for my mission.

  25. cheap cialis

    Hey there! I’ve been following your weblog for a while now and finally got the
    bravery to go ahead and give you a shout out from
    Lubbock Texas! Just wanted to tell you keep up the excellent work!

  26. Pingback: SEO

  27. I am very grateful that I have crossed your site. Your content was very great that I cant stop reading each post that you have. I hope for the best outcome of your site. Thanks

  28. After searching for a great site. I was so impressed to yours. This will probably give me ideas for my work. Thank you

  29. Royal CBD

    It’s actually a nice and useful piece of info.
    I am glad that you just shared this helpful information with us.
    Please stay us up to date like this. Thanks for sharing.

    P.S. If you have a minute, would love your feedback on my
    new website
    re-design. You can find it by searching for «royal cbd»
    — no sweat if you can’t.

    Keep up the good work!

  30. tinto

    Hi there would you mind letting me know which web host you’re using?
    I’ve loaded your blog in 3 completely different browsers and
    I must say this blog loads a lot faster then most.
    Can you recommend a good internet hosting provider at a
    honest price? Many thanks, I appreciate it!

  31. Eunice Frings

    I am the most happiest woman on earth right now, My fiancee that left me few months ago just came back to me last night crying to take him back. Guess what?? My highest surprise is that he just proposed to me right now and a car as a sign of apology. Who is the doer of all these?? “DR LABABA SPELL”….Fast and contact him on

  32. 007카지노

    Wow! This blog looks exactly like my old one!
    It’s on a completely different subject but it has pretty much the
    same layout and design. Excellent choice of colors!

  33. Hello there! This blog post could not be written much better!
    Reading through this post reminds me of my
    previous roommate! He continually kept preaching about this.

    I most certainly will send this article to him.
    Pretty sure he will have a very good read. Thank you for sharing!

  34. 더킹카지노

    Excellent, what a blog it is! This website gives useful facts to us, keep
    it up.

  35. Hi! I just would like to give you a huge thumbs up for
    your great info you have got right here on this post.
    I’ll be coming back to your website for more soon.

Leave a Reply

Sign up to our newsletter!