Qualities In A Spouse
Qualities in a spouse can determine a healthy marriage. Choosing qualities in a spouse is fundamental foundation of a partnership. Everyone likes to have a perfect, happy and permanent marriage and married life. To a large extent it may depend on the qualities in the existing or potential spouse, qualities in a husband as well as qualities in a wife. With good qualities in the marriage partnership the marriage can work wonderfully.
Most people have read articles that tell them how to communicate with their spouses; never to go to bed angry, etc. But being a stellar spouse takes a lot more than controlling anger and talking through issues. There are many more important traits needed to be a stellar spouse.
I am often asked, “What should a single person look for in a potential spouse?” Singles want to know and parents want to know so they can pass this information onto their children. A man and woman have to get married at some point in time. Every married man wishes to have a good bride but the questions that comes in our minds are: ‘What does a man wants in his wife?’ and ‘What qualities does a perfect wife have?’
Takes Pride In Their Appearance
Men would love to see their wives look well kept. When he comes home his wife should look good so that after a very tiring day he will feel good after seeing her. Men always want his friends to be jealous of him as he has a beautiful and intelligent wife for his lifetime. She should be presentable in
front of his friends. All he wants is to get appreciation for his wife. A spouse of yours should be one you take pride in.
Can Handle Pressure
Your spouse should be able to handle whatsoever pressure that comes along the way. The person you marry shouldn’t give you ultimatums like, ‘I won’t date you until you get a promotion’, or ‘If you go out with your friends I’ll break up with you’. There shouldn’t be rules to your relationship that
prohibit you from doing certain things or hold you back from being who you are. He can’t prevent you from wearing your crop top to the bar.
Sense Of Humor
The ideal spouse has a sense of humor. A sense of humor can be a lifesaver in a relationship. The ability to laugh at one’s self and at life’s foibles allows a person to maintain a proper perspective when dealing with sensitive issues that arise within a relationship. Couples who are playful and
teasing often defuse potentially volatile situations with their humor. A good sense of humor definitely eases the tense moments in a relationship. Being able to laugh at ourselves makes life much easier. Plus it is one of life’s greatest joys to be able to laugh with someone close to us.
Good With Money
An ideal partner should be good with money. Whoever takes care of the money in your house ensure that your wife is cared for and not deprived. Buy her treats and presents. Be liberal with your household budget and trust that she will be careful with the hard earned money. It’s amazing what a woman can do with a home when she is allowed free reign with decorating and arranging.
Do you have something you believe in? Do you hold to your convictions no matter what? If so these are admirable traits in a spouse. This isn’t about being obstinate or obtuse, it’s about standing up for what’s right and convincing others to do the same. There is a whole industry built around learning how to lead but let me just say this: if more men would take the time to help those who need a little direction the world would be a better place.
High Ethics And Morale
A young man’s character is displayed in his choices around life, around the use of money and relationships. But a woman’s character is displayed in how she handles the power of her femininity and sexuality. In other words, How modest is she? That’s becoming a weird word in our culture but I would challenge young men to keep their eyes out for young women whose character is displayed in not only on the inside but the outside as well.
An ideal spouse must have high ideals and morale which helps to hold up the relationship.
Great Mentally Stability
Growing up isn’t merely a matter of not acting like a kid anymore. These qualities are nice but to truly grow up means making an active effort to recognize and resolve negative influences from our past. An ideal partner is thus willing to reflect on his or her history and is interested in understanding how old events inform current behaviors. When people mature emotionally they are less likely to re-enact or project past experiences onto their current relationships. They develop a strong sense of independence and autonomy having differentiated from destructive influences from early in life. As they evolve within themselves they are less likely to look for someone to compensate for shortcomings and weaknesses or to complete their incompleteness. Instead they’re looking for someone to share life with as equals and to appreciate independently of themselves.
Having broken ties with old identities and patterns this person is much more available to a romantic partner and the new family that they create together. Naturally becoming emotionally mature ourselves helps with this process and dramatically improves our chances of achieving a solid and
How They Treat People And Their Parents With Honesty & Integrity
God tells us to honor our parents that our lives may be long and it may be well with us. Wouldn’t you want to select a man whose life has a sense of well-being in God’s favor? I have heard it said that if you want to see how a young man will treat you look at how he treats his mother. How does your spouse honor both their parent? Do they speak well of them or angry with them or refuse to speak about them at all? What’s going on between a young man and his parents is very important. A spouse should treat their parent perfectly.
The ideal partner realizes the importance of honesty in a close relationship. Honesty builds trust between people. Dishonesty confuses the other person, betraying their vulnerability and shattering their sense of reality. Nothing has a more destructive impact on a close relationship between two people than dishonesty and deception. Even in painful situations such as infidelity the blatant deception involved is often equally if not more hurtful than the unfaithful act itself. The ideal partner strives to live a life of integrity so that there are no discrepancies between words and actions. This goes for all levels of communication both verbal and nonverbal.
Good Work Ethics
However you have worked out your roles within the household whether one works and one stays home with the kids or both work you are a team working towards a common goal. Both spouse should have good work ethics. We all have goals, dreams, and aspirations. Wouldn’t it be miserable to be with someone who didn’t support them? The frustrations and insecurities that derive from a spouse not being supportive can bring someone to the point of depression. It would be hard to be with someone who doesn’t support what you are passionate about and I would encourage marrying someone who is. Be open and honest about what you feel.
Making You A Priority
There is nothing more frustrating than being with someone who has no drive no matter the circumstance. When it comes to looking for a spouse seek after someone who is driven, this something you don’t want to overlook. You’ll appreciate someone who has a drive to get better, take criticism, work harder and take advice. This will be greatly beneficial in your relationship and it will save you from having to pry this person off the couch in the future. I can’t imagine being in a relationship with someone who only thought of themselves and frankly that’s the opposite of what marriage is supposed to be. You need to find someone who is willing to
think about you and your relationship with each another before they think about how situations will affect them alone. Once you’re married no one should continue living a life that resembles that of a bachelor or bachelorette. To choose a spouse you gotta go for one who drives you and makes you their priority.
Respect And Independence
Ideal partners value each other’s’ interests separately from their own. They feel congenial toward and supportive each other’s overall goals in life. They are sensitive to the other’s wants, desires and feelings and place them on an equal basis as their own. Ideal partners treat each other with respect and sensitivity. They do not try to control each other with threatening or manipulative behavior. They are respectful of their partner’s distinct personal boundaries while at the same time remaining close physically and emotionally.
The ideal partner is easily affectionate and responsive physically, emotionally and verbally. He or she is personal, acknowledging and outwardly demonstrative of feelings of warmth and tenderness.
This person should enjoy closeness in being sexual and feel uninhibited in giving and accepting affection and pleasure. Being open to both giving and receiving affection adds a poignant feeling to our lives.
This is a key factor for any relationship to be successful. According to me, if you can communicate to your partner and understand him/her you surely have a strong relationship. Any misunderstanding should be sorted out on the specific day itself. He should be able to understand your problems, your difficulties, what you are trying to explain to him and be able to communicate freely without any barriers. He should take some time to talk to you. This is only possible if you put your ego aside and communicate with your partner.
Trust tops this list because any relationship is life less if it is deprived of trust. Trust is the building block of a relationship. The stronger the trust gets the stronger the relationship gets . This is the most important quality a good husband must possess. He should be able to trust you with each and everything and at the same time be trustworthy himself as well. He should not spy on you or be suspicious of you. If you both can trust each other blindly I am very sure your relationship is a perfect one.