When going after any goal or dream, developing patience is a must. But what exactly is patience? The dictionary definition of patience is ‘the bearing of provocation, annoyance, misfortune, or pain, without complaint, loss of temper, irritation, or the like.’ Patience is often referred to as being a virtue, and despite the difficulties at controlling it on some occasions, it’s something you couldn’t agree with more. It is such a quality to possess, but unfortunately, it’s something the majority of us very seldom practice.
When difficulties arise, the majority of people immediately quit and search for a simpler, more straight forward path, with the hope of avoiding pain and struggle that comes with any worthwhile and meaningful goal and desire. But it is only by overcoming adversity and pain that we forge and develop our character. Impatience deprives us of all kinds of life-changing and character-defining experiences.
Practicing patience brings with it many virtues that will significantly impact both life and the world.
- Practicing patience brings with it many virtues that will significantly impact both life and the world.
- Patience is that quality to hang on in there when things seem hopeless and impossible.
- Patience is the ability to distance yourself from instant gratification and allow things to come to you at the right time and in the right way.
- Patience is about accepting what is, and trusting that no matter what, you’re always on course to reach your destination.
- Patience demonstrates maturity and a roundedness in a person.
- Patience cultivates strong and binding relationships, whether in marriage, family, or community.
Which of the following situations send you over the edge? You ask your child to do something three times, and he is still not listening. Your four-year-old is having a complete meltdown over something you see as insignificant. You’ve had a long day, and your teenager won’t stop arguing with you. As moms, we all have a patience meter. The gauge goes up and down depending on our mood, our personality, and our triggers. If there is one thing that moms wish they had more of, its patience (and time, of course).
Patience is a virtue, that’s what they verily say, don’t be surprised what it costs you, just be willing to pay. by patience there is trust, peace and joy, in patience many things won’t annoy. So as you can see, its virtues are numerous, but how do we go about developing patience? Below are 5 developing patience tips that you can start applying in your life today.
Patience from honesty
Try answering these questions. ‘What are you impatient for?’ and ‘Why the hurry?’ Is it to do with pursuing something really worthwhile or is it something that can wait. Are you really desperate for that bit of information to satisfy what may turn out to be idle curiosity, or that food snack to remove pangs of hunger, or that way out of a social obligation so that you can get on with what we want to do.
Patience from reflection
Reflecting on the possible causes of delays and frustrations can help you to understand why things are likely to take longer than you had expected. In this way you can avoid jumping to unwarranted conclusions and challenge your fanciful imagination. This means you are making a conscious choice to become clearly aware of your hasty guess e.g. that someone intended to cause you grief. Then you can assess the likelihood of it really being true. Such reflection can help induce a state of patience.
Patience from looking
When you are obliged to wait for what you want, why not look for something in the present moment experience that might arouse your interest. Like empathizing with an overwrought shop assistant. Seeing things from someone else’s perspective can only reduce one’s own sense of grievance. Perhaps you can find something pleasing that you hadn’t noticed at first. Looking for the good in a situation instead of being preoccupied with the bad. This is an example of an attitude of mindfulness i.e. living in the moment and being awake to experience.
it’s essential to realize that no one is perfect.
Everyone has flaws, including you. Every one of us is on that never-ending journey of growth and development. That journey would be so much easier and enjoyable if we showed patience and compassion to each other.
Develop a life philosophy that is centered on your actual values and beliefs.
Living life in this way will avoid an instant gratification response and instead enable you to approach each situation in a more measured and considered form. Every choice you make has a consequence, the question you need to ask yourself is whether you act now and settle for what you get, or do you bide your time to get what you truly want?
Live in the present moment.
Dwelling on your mistakes and failures in your past, and worrying and fearing for your future robs you of your true power. It’s vital that you understand that we are all creating what we call our ‘tomorrow,’ our future today. Doubt, fear and worry zap you of all your power to create a better life for yourself.
Also, another important thing to remember is that when you live out of the present moment, dwelling on your past and worrying about your future, you are cutting off your future.
Face up to your fears.
Confronting your most significant fears head-on will eventually make them disappear. “The fears you don’t face control you. The fears you face, you move beyond,” Dr. Wayne Dyer. Even the most successful people in the world experience fear, but the difference is that rather of avoiding or running away from their worries, they face up to them and take action.
Don’t force things to happen.
You must understand that all things come to those who wait. You must be patient! The people we meet or the situations or circumstances we confront are all leading us through life toward our most sought after desires. Release all doubts, fears, and anxieties, and soon everything you desire will be yours guaranteed!
Developing patience is integral to goal achievement. It’s a key requirement to aligning your thoughts and actions with that of your desires. Patience is not something we are born with. It’s a skill that is developed with time and practice. With the right approach and the right attitude, we can all learn patience.