It’s never easy when a significant relationship ends in a breakup. Whatever the reason for the break up a breakup can turn your whole world upside down and trigger all sorts of painful and unsettling feelings. Breakups blow chunks in our mindset. Whether it’s an amicable breakup or a horrible one, you’ve invested a part of you into another person and must accept that the relationship that you once nurtured is dead and gone. Some studies have shown that the same regions of the brain are activated when an addict is going through withdrawals as when someone is going through a breakup.
But there are a lot of things you can do to get through this difficult time and move on.
Here are 5 of these ways:
Work Through Your Issues.
Learn how to channel your anger of the breakup in a healthy way, whether it’s through music, writing, exercise or some other outlet. Although suppressing unpleasant feelings is a natural impulse avoiding your emotions will ultimately prevent you from moving past them. There are so many emotions involved in a breakup such as anger, sadness, loneliness, feelings of rejection and uncertainty about the future, it’s essential to confront them head-on. Particularly in the early stages of a breakup allow yourself to feel what you feel without judgment. Writing out your thoughts in a journal or having a good cry can help you process and gain the clarity you need to see why the relationship didn’t work and why you’ll be better off without your former partner. If you feel that it’s the right move seeing a therapist can be very helpful in getting through a breakup. They can offer an outsider’s perspective on your situation and give you the tools and resources to achieve closure on your own.
After Your Breakup, Rediscover And Reinvent Yourself.
Make time each day to nurture yourself. Help yourself heal by scheduling time daily for activities that you find calming and soothing. Go for a walk in nature, listen to music, enjoy a hot bath, get a massage, read a favorite book, take a yoga class or savor a warm cup of tea. Spend time with people who love you for you. Pick up a new hobby that makes you happy. Get a new hairdo, go on a trip with friends, lose some weight or just catch up on things you’ve always wanted to do. Instead of restricting calories,eat nourishing whole foods that are high in fiber, protein and nutrients to boost your mood and energy. A balanced diet with plenty of fresh fruits, greens and stress-busting super-foods can help counteract the physiological
stress of the breakup.
Turn Your Breakup Into A Learning Experience.
Although you’re unable to alter the past you can always learn from your mistakes. If nothing else lessons can always be learned from a failed relationship. After a bad breakup it’s hard to get excited about the things you loved pre-split but the only way to start enjoying yourself again is to force yourself to get out and do them anyway. Treat yourself to something that makes you feel good and learn from your failed relationship. What were the things you did that might have crashed the relationship or things that made it exciting? Learn from this, keep the good ones and make do with the bad ones.
Accept Where You Are In Life.
Be aware of what you’re feeling and learn to recognize your self-worth. I am a big believer in the power of meditation and I find this can be really helpful for this component. Painful breakups can cloud your thinking so that it’s almost impossible to look beyond the immediate feelings of pain and loss. You may have trouble remembering all the things you appreciate because you’re so focused on the negative. Practicing gratitude and accepting the level you are in life can help to even out your moods and get you get back into a more positive frame of mind. Studies have shown that listing things you’re thankful for can boost your well-being and brighten your outlook on life.
Be Patient And Set Your Priorities Right.
At some point during the recovery period it’s possible you may run into your ex. This can be more difficult for some than others but when in doubt a short, “Hey, how are you?” followed by a little bit of small talk does the trick. Try to avoid talking about your relationship as it’s uncomfortable and never does a whole lot of good for either party. Try also to avoid immediate rebounds after your breakup. This might look awful but be patient with any other relationship that comes after and not rush things. You can achieve this by setting your priorities right. When you’ve got plans for each day you have less time for the social life at least until you are more emotionally stable.